Ok, guys, if you got past that girly title then you must really want to hear what I have to say about helping your marriage. I learned early on from a friend that the best way to avoid an affair is to stay far away from any situations that put you at risk for one.
You may be thinking “but Mike, I don’t go to clubs to trawl for women. I just stay home every night watching TV.” Ok, fair enough, but are there times you may hang out alone with one or two female coworkers after work, or during lunch? How about chatting online about just random things with a single or married lass when your wife doesn’t know about it?
Honestly, I force myself to not take part in these interactions because I know where it could lead. Your body doesn’t care who the female is because it’s your hormones that are talking. The more familiar you become with a female acquaintance, the more you end up telling yourself that she likes you, or she has things your wife lacks (whether it’s true or not, your body doesn’t care).
Soon enough, you find that you’re attracted to her. Whether you realize it or not, you’re looking for an opening to make your move. And you know what happens if you make that move. Don’t think you can hide your blunder, because it will get out eventually, or else you’ll be forced to live with the guilt forever.
Guys, I’ve been lucky enough not to get caught in this web, but it’s sooo easy to make the mistake. Maybe a neighbor (guy) leaves for a week and his wife needs some help around the house. Ask her to leave while you’re doing your work, or refer her to a professional handyman. The fastest way out of this situation is not getting into it in the first place. Don’t be shy about making your reasons known. Tell her “I’d rather not put myself in the situation where others might question my intentions.”
Ultimately, it’s your marriage on the line, so protect it with all your heart, mind and body. Don’t let a little mistake cost you your marriage, because ultimately, your wife is your best friend.