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5 Signs You’re Settling Into An Abusive Relationship Without Realizing It

February 19, 2025
By Drew Blankenship
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Unfortunately, I know plenty of people who have been in abusive relationships. A lot of the time, individuals find it hard to leave because they’ve settled in. However, if you feel like you are constantly feeling drained, controlled, or anxious with your significant other, it might be time to rethink your relationship. Here are five signs that you might be settling into an abusive relationship.

1. You Feel Like You’re Always Walking on Eggshells

If you’re constantly afraid of upsetting your partner, this could be a sign of emotional abuse. You may hesitate to express your thoughts or opinions for fear of an angry or dismissive reaction. Over time, this can lead to anxiety and a loss of self-confidence. A healthy relationship should provide a safe space for open communication and mutual respect.

2. Your Partner Controls Your Decisions

An abusive partner often exerts control over different aspects of your life, from your social interactions to your finances. You may find yourself seeking their approval for simple choices, like what to wear or who to talk to. This kind of manipulation can make you feel powerless and dependent. A loving partner should support your independence, not restrict it.

3. They Dismiss Your Feelings and Experiences

In a toxic relationship, your emotions and concerns are often invalidated. Your partner may downplay your feelings, accuse you of being overly sensitive, or ignore your boundaries. This can leave you feeling unheard and unimportant, eroding your self-worth. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual understanding and empathy.

4. You Justify Their Hurtful Behavior

When in an abusive relationship, you may find yourself making excuses for your partner’s mistreatment. Whether it’s blaming stress, alcohol, or personal struggles, rationalizing their harmful actions only enables the cycle of abuse. You might even convince yourself that things will get better with time. However, true love does not require suffering or compromise at the cost of your well-being.

5. You’ve Lost Your Sense of Self

Abusive relationships often lead to a gradual loss of identity. You may stop engaging in hobbies you once loved, distance yourself from friends and family, or change your personality to please your partner. This can leave you feeling isolated and disconnected from who you truly are. A loving partner should encourage your individuality, not diminish it.

Trust Your Instincts and Seek Help

If any of these things stand out to you as something you recognize in your own relationship, you can’t ignore it. You have to take action because abusive relationships will suck life out of you. Look for help from trusted friends and family. You can also connect with a professional who can assist you in figuring out what your next steps should be. There is a way out and you can have a relationship that is full of love and respect.

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About Drew Blankenship

Drew Blankenship is a former Porsche technician who writes and develops content full-time. He lives in North Carolina, where he enjoys spending time with his wife and two children. While Drew no longer gets his hands dirty modifying Porsches, he still loves motorsport and avidly watches Formula 1.

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