10 Things Good Husbands Stop Doing After 60 (But Shouldn’t)

January 22, 2026

Being a good husband and having a thriving marriage takes work. You have to put in the work every single day to make your partner happy. Unfortunately, as time moves on, many good husbands unintentionally start letting go of the habits that have made their marriages so strong. This can eat away at the connection you once had, but it doesn’t have to. Make sure you don’t stop doing these 10 things after you turn 60.

1. Complimenting Her Like You Used To

Some men assume their wives already know how they feel. But regular compliments are important. A simple “You look beautiful” or “I love how you handled that” can go a long way. After 60, when life slows down, words of affirmation become even more meaningful. So, make sure you continue to include them in your day-to-day life.

2. Initiating Physical Affection

Physical touch doesn’t have an expiration date. Holding hands, hugging, or a gentle back rub still speak volumes. Many wives miss the casual intimacy that once came naturally. It’s not about grand gestures; it’s about staying connected through small, daily acts.

3. Planning Little Surprises

Remember when you used to bring home her favorite snack or plan a spontaneous date night? Those moments still count. After 60, surprises don’t need to be extravagant. They just need to be thoughtful. A handwritten note or a walk in the park can reignite closeness.

4. Asking About Her Day

It’s easy to assume you already know everything about each other. But people evolve, and so do their thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Asking “How was your day?” or “What’s on your mind?” keeps the emotional connection strong. It shows you care about her inner world, not just the shared routine.

5. Dressing With Intention

Some men let grooming slide after retirement, but appearance still matters. It’s not about vanity; it’s about showing respect for yourself and your partner. A clean shave, a fresh shirt, or polished shoes can boost confidence and attraction. Looking good helps you feel good, and that energy is contagious.

6. Saying “I Love You” Out Loud

My wife and I probably say “I love you” too much. Over time, some couples say these three words less often. But love doesn’t become less important with age. Saying “I love you” isn’t just a habit; it’s a reaffirmation of your bond. Don’t assume she knows… say it, show it, mean it.

7. Trying New Things Together

Routines can be comforting, but they can also become ruts. Good husbands keep the spirit of adventure alive by trying new things with their wives. Whether it’s a cooking class, a road trip, or learning to dance, shared experiences create fresh memories. Speak with your wife and see what she’d be interested in doing.

8. Listening Without Fixing

Men often want to solve problems, but sometimes your wife just wants to be heard. After 60, emotional support becomes even more vital. Listening without jumping to solutions shows empathy and presence. It tells her you value her feelings, not just the facts.

9. Flirting Playfully

My wife is constantly rolling her eyes at my flirting, but it’s something that keeps our marriage alive. Flirting isn’t just for the early days. A wink, a teasing joke, or a flirty text can reignite chemistry. Playfulness keeps the relationship light and joyful, even in serious seasons. Don’t let age steal your sense of fun.

10. Checking In Emotionally

Life after 60 can bring big transitions, including retirement, health changes, or becoming a grandparent. Regular emotional check-ins help couples stay connected through it all. Ask how she’s feeling, what she’s worried about, or what she’s looking forward to. These conversations build trust and closeness.

Staying Engaged Is the Real Secret

Being a good husband after 60 isn’t about grand gestures. The habits that built your relationship are the same ones that will sustain it. Don’t let age or routine dull your connection. Keep showing up, keep caring, and keep choosing each other every day. Love doesn’t retire. It just evolves.

Which of these habits do you think is most important to keep after 60? Share your thoughts in the comments.