Comments on: Would you go to a wedding if you had to pay for your meal?

By: Monika

Monika — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 04:29:56 +0000

People are really cheap these days! If you really care about the couple pay for your meal! Help them out! How selfish is it that people expect the bride and groom to fork over a small fortune just so they can eat. Pay the measly $30.00 and help them celebrate their love. I say if people don’t want to show up because they have to pay then screw them, they don’t care enough for you anyway!

By: ELI

ELI — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 16:12:40 +0000

Ummmmmmm I know I’m super late but anyway the people that are cheap are actually you guys! Lol how dare u judge someone for doing that!? Only in America! That’s actually a Canadian Tradition! Lol y would u want to pay for a bunch of ppl to eat that are gonna complain about the food anyway! WTH? Stop playing yourselves its about being financially conscious! I will invite 125 guests and if anybody EXTRA wants to join the party then guess what? Pay for your plate! Have of you guys would pay a 100 $ to go to meteocre event just to be seen its the same principle! If u want to attend my wedding event then PAY$$$$$!

By: Miguel @ Great Stops

Miguel @ Great Stops — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:18:21 +0000

I think this question depends on whose wedding we are talking about. I would go to my Sisters wedding regardless of what she asked me to do. If some neighbor sent us an invite, asking us to pay for our meal and bring a gift, I would probably just send a gift and enjoy my Saturday outside.

Interesting post

By: Hong

Hong — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 07:16:01 +0000

Joe, I don’t think weddings in Japan are not like that, they don’t expect any gifts. In asian weddings, traditionally the guests give about $100 per guest, or more if you are close to the bride and groom. But you don’t give any gifts.

The gift of money is to help the newlyweds in their new life together, rather than thought of as paying for the meal.

Of course if you go to an asian wedding and you’re unaware of this tradition, it is ok to give a gift instead.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 20:40:45 +0000

Like a few other comments, only if it was a close family friend would I agree to pay. However my daughter has just turned 22 and is settled with her boyfriend and I fear that as the bride’s father, it won’t be long before I am forced to shell out for her wedding so if i could get people to pay for the meal or their drinks I absolutely would.

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:42:44 +0000

Wow- that’s the epitome of tacky… please come, pay for your meal, and bring a gift. Guess what- if you can’t afford to host your guests in a traditional wedding reception, DON’T have one. Asking people to pay for their presence at your wedding is beyond tacky and rude. I don’t care what the circumstances are.

By: Megan

Megan — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 19:38:41 +0000

Tradition does come into play, but there is an even bigger reason why the bride and groom should pay for the event. They are hosts, and they have invited the guests. Many, many brides, and some grooms, develop the idea that the wedding is “my day”. And, they begin to think they are owed something (or everything!) Gracious brides and grooms keep in mind that they have invited guests to share the special day, and they are responsible for ensuring the guests are happy.

I do speak from experience. My husband and I will celebrate our one year anniversary on September 20. We had a budget of $12,000. So, we invited 35 guests, and provided them with everything. And, we timed the event around their comfort, not necessarily our wishes. To this day, our guests comment on how lovely our wedding was, how special they felt, and how much they enjoyed their time.

If brides and grooms start by thinking of the wedding guests as actual guests, they will have an easier time making decisions.

By: Corporate Barbarian

Corporate Barbarian — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:23:18 +0000

I, too, expect a free meal and an open bar at a wedding (I always tip the bartender well – it keeps the drinks coming). We agonized over the menu at our wedding, and the whole event went by in a flash. In hindsight, I’d opt for a JOP wedding.

By: James

James — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 13:55:13 +0000

If you are a total cheapskate, you can register at Bed Bath – They will give you *cash* back for anything that was on your registry. Register for small easy to return items like china sets, sheets and towels.

By: LAL

LAL — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 01:42:04 +0000

hell no I wouldn’t go. And it would be a great excuse to not go.