Comments on: What you think about adoption, and what we’re doing about it

By: RateLadder.com

RateLadder.com — Mon, 16 Apr 2007 05:45:07 +0000

Not normally a topic I comment on, but I have 2 adopted Chinese sisters. And my mom is pretty well known in the Chinese adoption community. If you have any questions about adoption and Chinese adoption she has the answer or knows the person who does. Check out her blog at http://savvythinker.com

By: origami rose

origami rose — Fri, 13 Apr 2007 05:04:23 +0000

I was an adopted child and I think I grew up ok

By: Why does adoption cost so much? at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money

Why does adoption cost so much? at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money — Thu, 12 Apr 2007 10:02:07 +0000

[...] my earlier post about adoption, Dimples asks (via a comment): Why is adoption so expensive? Do you know the breakdown of the costs [...]

By: Clever Dude

Clever Dude — Thu, 12 Apr 2007 01:08:48 +0000

Dimples, look for a post tomorrow to answer your question (at least as much as I am able).

By: Dimples

Dimples — Thu, 12 Apr 2007 00:12:23 +0000

Why is adoption so expensive? Do you know the breakdown of the costs associated? I am just confused why so much money is needed to adopt when there are so many children in the system that need a loving home. I am pretty sure that there are many folks out there who aren’t able to conceive and would probably welcome the adoption option with open arms but don’t have $10-$20K just lying around.

By: Clever Dude

Clever Dude — Wed, 11 Apr 2007 23:32:46 +0000

Oh, no no no. I didn’t intend that we’d be perfect parents, or even any better than most out there. My problem is with parents who just are not mentally ready for kids, and probably never will be.

For example, my aunt has adopted 2 babies (now in their mid-teens). However, she was, is and always will be very selfish with her own time. She just wants the kids to hit 18 and get out of her house. She just yells out of frustration and doesn’t want to listen to anyone’s advice (friends, family, doctors, psychiatrists, etc.).

I did not intend the average parent. My parents did a great job with me when I’m sure I was an “accident”. They understood what their responsibility was, even if it meant they couldn’t be totally free newlyweds anymore.

By: D

Wed, 11 Apr 2007 23:23:53 +0000

Hate to burst any bubbles of hope for perfection, but I would bet everything I have that all new parents are ill-equiped and unprepared.

Read everything you like, take all the child rearing classes you want, it won’t prepare you. Each and every child is unique and each and every situation you encounter and “mood” is different. There were times I wanted to run and hide from my first born. Yet, the next 2 were a breeze in the beginning.

No 2 kids respond the same to disciple. I have found and most parents will agree with me, you have to fine tune your disciple style to match the child, not your style.

Kids are the eye opener to truth.

Just don’t want you to think you will have a text book child. You will have a REAL child.

By: Juan Millon

Juan Millon — Wed, 11 Apr 2007 21:48:51 +0000

To be honest I would never want to adopt. Even if I were sterile I would want them to like extract my DNA and make a test tube baby! hehe.