Comments on: Temptation in the Workplace, and Accountability http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/ Family, Marriage, Finances & Life Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:09:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Pimping Bookmarks! http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14898 Pimping Bookmarks! Fri, 09 Nov 2007 07:20:12 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14898 [...] Temptation in the Workplace and Accountability by Clever Dude [...] [...] Temptation in the Workplace and Accountability by Clever Dude [...]

]]> By: plonkee http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14694 plonkee Sun, 04 Nov 2007 17:11:10 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14694 ROFL. ROFL.

]]> By: Clever Dude http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14661 Clever Dude Sat, 03 Nov 2007 19:59:50 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14661 GG/Plonkee: Both parties have to be responsible and professional adults. However, I recognize it's hard to be both fun and serious when you are the slightest bit attracted to one of your coworkers, so it's basically a "hold back" type attitude until it becomes a problem. You have to be vocal about your boundaries, though, but be prepared for a surprise reaction from the other party, such as "what? I wasn't flirting" or "don't flatter yourself". Luckily, I don't have to worry about advances from the opposite sex at work. I try to portray the stupid fool all the time so no one is distracted by my sexual glow. GG/Plonkee: Both parties have to be responsible and professional adults. However, I recognize it’s hard to be both fun and serious when you are the slightest bit attracted to one of your coworkers, so it’s basically a “hold back” type attitude until it becomes a problem. You have to be vocal about your boundaries, though, but be prepared for a surprise reaction from the other party, such as “what? I wasn’t flirting” or “don’t flatter yourself”.

Luckily, I don’t have to worry about advances from the opposite sex at work. I try to portray the stupid fool all the time so no one is distracted by my sexual glow.

]]> By: GG http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14658 GG Sat, 03 Nov 2007 18:51:47 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14658 Yeah, I relate to Plonkee's comment above. How in the world do you respond, as a single female, when an older married man seems flirtatious. I find it incredibly uncomfortable and do everything to discourage it from continuing. On the other hand, one of my favorite people to work with is this married guy who's just easy to communicate with. It's never been slightly flirty/awkward. So I wonder where the line is and what makes it feel strange with some people. Yeah, I relate to Plonkee’s comment above. How in the world do you respond, as a single female, when an older married man seems flirtatious. I find it incredibly uncomfortable and do everything to discourage it from continuing.

On the other hand, one of my favorite people to work with is this married guy who’s just easy to communicate with. It’s never been slightly flirty/awkward. So I wonder where the line is and what makes it feel strange with some people.

]]> By: Clever Dude http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14480 Clever Dude Wed, 31 Oct 2007 00:28:04 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14480 Your welcome Rob :) Your welcome Rob :)

]]> By: Rob http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14478 Rob Wed, 31 Oct 2007 00:04:57 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14478 Hey folks,.. Rob here. I'd like to mention that the situation I was/am in wasn't as dire as it may seem. I don't want anyone to get the impression that I was reaching out for help right before I knowingly did something stupid. It wasn't like that at all. It was just that, for the first time in my married life, I met someone that clicked with me the same way my wife does - and it was a little unsettling. I have no intention of breaking my vows or pursuing any 'extra-curricular' interests. That can turn into an ugly downward spiral. My concern was that I was witnessing a situation develop in my own life that I recognize could get out of control if I didn't check myself - even if a bit prematurely. Heck,.. I don't even know (or want to know) if the other person was interested in me. Fact is, it doesn't matter. I just needed to reach out to someone to steady me before I ignored what I was faced with. I'm just glad Mike was willing to be that person. I could just as easily written the open letter to myself, keeping it as a means to face my own demons. But it meant a lot more to me to have someone else (albeit a relative stranger) back me up on this one. Thanks Mike! Hey folks,.. Rob here. I’d like to mention that the situation I was/am in wasn’t as dire as it may seem. I don’t want anyone to get the impression that I was reaching out for help right before I knowingly did something stupid. It wasn’t like that at all. It was just that, for the first time in my married life, I met someone that clicked with me the same way my wife does – and it was a little unsettling.

I have no intention of breaking my vows or pursuing any ‘extra-curricular’ interests. That can turn into an ugly downward spiral. My concern was that I was witnessing a situation develop in my own life that I recognize could get out of control if I didn’t check myself – even if a bit prematurely. Heck,.. I don’t even know (or want to know) if the other person was interested in me.

Fact is, it doesn’t matter. I just needed to reach out to someone to steady me before I ignored what I was faced with. I’m just glad Mike was willing to be that person. I could just as easily written the open letter to myself, keeping it as a means to face my own demons. But it meant a lot more to me to have someone else (albeit a relative stranger) back me up on this one.

Thanks Mike!

]]> By: The Simple Dollar » The Simple Dollar Morning Roundup: Be My Digg Friend Edition http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14465 The Simple Dollar » The Simple Dollar Morning Roundup: Be My Digg Friend Edition Tue, 30 Oct 2007 13:31:10 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14465 [...] Temptation in the Workplace and Accountability My best practice at work is to just focus on nothing at all but work. Even when I’m engaging in office banter, I try to see it as just part of work. Why? I’m not tempted to start mixing work and personal life. (@ clever dude) [...] [...] Temptation in the Workplace and Accountability My best practice at work is to just focus on nothing at all but work. Even when I’m engaging in office banter, I try to see it as just part of work. Why? I’m not tempted to start mixing work and personal life. (@ clever dude) [...]

]]> By: Laura http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14444 Laura Mon, 29 Oct 2007 20:34:35 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14444 Tough situation that happens. I commend the author for seeking some kind of help in the situation. clever Dude was right to point out that being open and honest with your wife helps, even if it hurts temporarily. Tough situation that happens. I commend the author for seeking some kind of help in the situation. clever Dude was right to point out that being open and honest with your wife helps, even if it hurts temporarily.

]]> By: Jason http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14440 Jason Mon, 29 Oct 2007 15:53:21 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14440 What a great read! I have gone through this myself and it is one of the reasons I wonder if I will ever trust myself to get married. I do not know if I have the strength to resist the temptation. However I have found that are things I will find myself holding back on when around the temptation. So when I find myself holding back thats when I force myself to talk about those issues. Like I will force myself to talk about being in a relationship, what me and my girlfriend did over the weekend. All things that in my mind but up blocks between me and the temptation. Thanks for making me feel like I am not alone. Good article! What a great read! I have gone through this myself and it is one of the reasons I wonder if I will ever trust myself to get married. I do not know if I have the strength to resist the temptation. However I have found that are things I will find myself holding back on when around the temptation. So when I find myself holding back thats when I force myself to talk about those issues. Like I will force myself to talk about being in a relationship, what me and my girlfriend did over the weekend. All things that in my mind but up blocks between me and the temptation.

Thanks for making me feel like I am not alone. Good article!

]]> By: Allese http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/comment-page-1/#comment-14437 Allese Mon, 29 Oct 2007 15:08:30 +0000 http://www.cleverdude.com/content/temptation-in-the-workplace-and-accountability/#comment-14437 What a wonderful response! Temptation is inevitable; this is exactly how I hope my significant other would respond. Great advice. What a wonderful response! Temptation is inevitable; this is exactly how I hope my significant other would respond.
Great advice.

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