I forwarded the comment over to Stacie, but I think she would say the same thing. Good luck and we’ll pray for you both!

What do I get? Nothing. No thank you, no reciprocation, she doesn’t even reply to my emails very often – says she has no time (yet, I know she emails her friends [males] all day long).

In fact she got so mad at me for the newspaper ad, she wouldn’t talk to me for nearly two weeks. Our friends still bring it up and say it was the most romantic thing they ever seen – go figure.

Last year for Valentines I spent over a month getting all the kids (ages 4 to 19) to go to the local scrapbook store to each create a scrapbook page for her. I put these all in a nice scrapbook and we gave it to her for Valentines Day. She thanked each child and told them how much she liked it but said nothing to me. In fact, I didn’t even get a card. She said she didn’t have time.

I don’t know what else to do. I always try to come up with unique ways to “Woo” her and relight the fire (been married 8 years). A lot of the things I do get her friends “teary eyed” but seem to have no effect on her.

Any suggestions???

Honestly, regarding little romantic things, Stacie does much more for me than I do for her. She brings me little Butterfinger treats, brownies, cookies, cake….wait, there’s a pattern there! Anyway, I get her flowers, and even then I get lazy (actually, I just don’t go to the store as often anymore).

Generally I’ve found women are less secure about the relationship than men are, so those little things to show you’re still interested and think of her are very important to her, even if they aren’t to you.

Oh, and don’t let the “She’s not doing anything for me, so I won’t do anything for her” mentality be your excuse for being lazy in the relationship. Relationships are 100/100, not 50/50. Put your best effort forth, and she’ll appreciate it (once she recognizes that you’re being sincere!).