This is the same friend I went to Ireland with in 2002 and drove 1000 miles with. I was the only one driving so he didn’t have anything else to do except drill me with questions. WHEW! I really was drained. But I can’t talk to him daily, weekly or sometimes even monthly. I almost get ill when I see his name pop up on the caller ID, but eventually I get the nerve to answer/call back and we have a great conversation.

Sorry I couldn’t be more help other than to sympathize!

This is not something I’ve ever read before, so I’m glad for the post!

I have also never consciously ‘de-friended’ someone, but sometimes stepping back/giving space/accepting change is the most viable option.

I can see how guys maybe don’t worry about this as much, but I still think they think about it and that things bother them, they just express it in different way – and are less vocal about it. Guys on the whole may be more willing to forgive and forget, I’m not sure.

But this article is good for even the guys out there to go through their friends list and figure out if any of them need to be maintained a little better or if you’ve been a bad friend in a time of need.

Two once close guy friends meet for dinner after not having spoken to each other for 6 months:
Guy 1; “What happened that we don’t hang out anymore?”
Guy 2: “That day you did the thing without me.”
Guy 1 “Really?”
Guy 2 “Yeah. Ticked me off.”
Guy 1 “Oh, dude. Why didn’t you say anything?”
Guy 2 “I don’t know.”
Guy 1 “Well, look. I’m sorry. Buy you a drink to make it up to you?”
Guy 2 “Forget about it. I’ll take the drink though.”
Guy 1 “Sure. Bartender! A drink for my friend.”
Guy 2 “Dude, you ever do that to me again and I’ll kick your a**.”
Guy 1 “You mean you’d TRY to kick my a**, crybaby.”
Good natured ribbing and insulting ensues.

And, of course, if the two guys really didn’t care to be friends anymore, they’d never meet for dinner in the first place! Sometimes, being a guy is soooo much easier.