We all crave acceptance from our friends, our family, and our peers. We perceive the easiest way to gain that acceptance is to be like them. Wear what they wear, drive what they drive, do what they do, live like they live.
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It’s commonly called keeping up with the Joneses, and it’s exhausting.
Exhausting both emotionally and financially. Constantly keeping up with what everyone else is wearing, driving and buying, plus trying to figure out how to pay for it all takes a lot of energy. Oh, and just having these things isn’t enough, you have to make sure everyone else knows you have them
I read an article recently that suggests that trying to keep up with the Joneses is a complete waste of time.
I recommend reading the entire article, but there’s specific section that really hit home for me. If I told you that someone thought of you 10 times in a day, would you consider that obsessive? Would you wonder why someone would think of you so much? A recent study suggests that a person has up to 50,000 thoughts in day. Which means that person’s thoughts about you made up of 0.02% of their total thought activity for the day. The net is, you’re hardly a blip on anyone’s radar.
People just don’t care that much about the lives of others.
That certainly makes sense to me. Between my day job, my writing, being a husband and a father, and all the things that need to be done to maintain our home if I had any time left over at the end of the day I’d spend it in a chair by myself in complete and utter silence. I couldn’t care less whether Bob next door has the latest iPhone or how old his car is.
The next time you’re thinking of dropping some serious cash to impress someone, or utter the phrase, “But what will my friends think?” remember this: They don’t care, and neither should you. Spend your energy on yourself, building the life YOU want, and making YOU happy.
How much time and energy to you spend trying to gain acceptance of others? Why do you think we assume others think about us?
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